The couple’s
first daughter Sharon Oyakhilome has decided reveal more information in support
of her Mother’s decision to file for divorce against her father, Pastor Chris she
took
to Twitter to post a cryptic message written by Obinna Akukwe . Sharon’s tweets appear to be similar to the
case Rev. Anita Oyakhilome cited in the divorce papers where she stated that
her husband had been away for the most part of their marriage.
Please read…………………………………………
In Defence of
Anita Oyakhilome the frustrated Wife:
“Anita
Oyakhilome, the frustrated wife of Nigeria’s most flamboyant preacher, Chris
Oyakhilome has obviously passed through 15 years of adulterous endurance and
what she needs is our prayers and protective respect and defense of her choices
to forget all the anti-rhapsody of heartbreak she endured all these years.
Fifteen
(15) years of being abandoned by a preacher husband is not an easy way of life for
a preacher’s wife. Fifteen (15) years of hearing that some mini skirted
daughters of Jezebel have taken over your possession is not a joke. Fifteen
years of a husband not staying with the wife for up to a week on a stretch while
spending time with some double breasted figure eight(ed) daughters of eve is
not an easy thing to swallow. 15 years of being used as a showcase to make church
members believe in Rhapsodies of Blissful Union, while dying in silence is not
a palatable experience for any woman.
Fifteen
years of being called Mama, Mummy, and other glorified names of Senior
Pastor’swife while some domestic harems sneer at the same Mummy behind is not a
sweet experience. For goodness sake, this woman never probably had a good kiss
in fifteen years and yet she is being accused of carnality for crying out
loud.She was continually being led into temptation of seeking for s*xual satisfaction
from outside for fifteen years and she managed to escape the traps of sin.
Fifteen
years when their two lovely daughters would wake up and ask their mother why
Dad had not cared to visit, and she would have to release a lie to stave off
the frequent probing questions. Above all, fifteen years when Anita had to fake
that all is well with their marriage, while she is actually dying emotionally.
Every person she complained to among the pastoral cadre sided with the man, and
she was left alone to bear her cross.
I
warned some pastor friends with Christ Embassy early 2013 that they had better
settle this marriage rift between Oga and his wife before it destroys the
church. The same pastors have called me to express regret that a national
embarrassment has ensued.
This
woman has been called Jezebel by some pastors and members of the church. Some
claimed she was disrespectful while others claimed she was always bitter of
recent.They have tried to castigate her before members of the church who came
in private to ask for the way out. She was described as unreasonable and
insubordinate.
Her
husband, according to news reports has even followed to cast her in bad light.
According to Pastor Chris Oyakhilome, “Bitterness is prolonged and accumulated
danger. My wife is always angry and bitter,” Going further he told his members
to “Be careful of the friends you keep. My wife keeps friends who bring out the
worst in her and help her see the worst in people, instead of keeping friends
that will help her vision, especially as the wife of a global pastor like me.”
Please,
which preacher woman who has been abandoned for fifteen years will not be
bitter and angry? Was Anita expected to clap and dance while some hot legs are
parading around the White House?
This
pastor’s wife was also disclaimed by her husband who told his congregants in
reaction to the divorce saga that Anita is not necessarily a Woman of God. According
to Pastor Oyakhilome “Don’t act like those people. If you are married to a man
of God, it doesn’t make you automatically mature. You can make mistakes; you
can do something that is wrong. But some people expect the wife of a minister
to definitely be at the level of that minister and so they may be looked upon
and the expectation may be like that, but it’s a positional thing”. He
clarified his theory by saying that “If a man of God is married, it doesn’t
automatically mean that the wife of a man of God is therefore a woman of God.
"That’s
not the way it is in the Bible.” Pastor Chris also added that “That’s why you
don’t really find the wives of men of God mentioned in the Bible. How many of
them? Who was Peter’s wife, did you ever know her name? You never find that
out. Who was John’s wife? Did you ever read the name? What about all the other
Apostles? How many of their names are written in the Bible. You never find
their names.”
Anita
Oyakhilome actually proved that she has fear of God in the manner she worded
her divorce plea. She opted to use the word “inappropriate relationship with
female staff members” instead of out rightly accusing her husband of adultery. According
to the statement, “the wife has discussed with the husband his appropriate
relationship with some of his female staff members. She has explained that this
has given her cause for concern. The husband has minimised her worries and
taken no step to alleviate her grievances.”
Anita
Oyakhilome could have said that her husband abandoned her and ran into the arms
of sister A or B, or gospel singer C or D and left her roasting and murmuring
in the house. Anita could have said that her husband is a hypocrite who says a
thing and means another, but she veiled her grievances of years of abandonment
by saying in the divorce file that “The wife feels that she has been used to
portray and enhance the husband’s image as a family man when the reality is
that there is no existing relationship between them. She feels that she has
been present for official functions simply for his convenience.
On
occasions she has been copied into his travel itinerary which has been given to
him by his staff on a need to know basis”. “The wife has tried to discuss her
concerns with the husband. He claims that she is carnal and he is insensitive
to her feelings and her needs.”
Thus
Anita had acted with much restraint in order to preserve the integrity of
Christ Embassy and the work of evangelism, and all she got for her discretion
was hate messages all many sections of church members who wanted her to
sacrifice her marriage to keep them in a rhapsody of deceit.
This woman, according to the testimony of many British residents who attend their church, is one person who is always willing to give gifts to the needy. She is ever ready to counsel people and does not breed class. She is a patient listener who laboriously introduced many things in the church for which the glory goes to her husband. Londoners believe that she is not that demon they want to portray her as. Those who know her closely have attested to an affectionate good naturedness and stickler for details.
Some
misguided church members want to think, Anita had lived a lie for many years.
Anita was said to have become born again at believers Loveworld campus
fellowship at Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, while Chris was the pastor. She
had probably paid her dues as a Christian and knows what it is to deceive the
congregation. She cannot deceive herself and the church anymore thus she opted
for divorce. Divorce, according to scripture is unbiblical, but between
deceiving a congregation that already knows the truth but pretends otherwise
and staying in unfulfilled marriage, which is better. It is a matter between
her and her conscience.
Last
year, a Nigerian personality blogger by name Ese Walter was lured by her Senior
Pastor in Abuja into a cozy hotel bed space in London and after two weeks of
adultery, the man cleaned up, returned to Nigeria and told his congregation to
shout some Hallelujah. The sin partner was arrested by the Holy Spirit and she
sought a meeting with the COZA Chief to resolve the burden of guilt. She was
continually shunned and described as agent of satan even by other senior
pastors in the church until she turned the internet into the confessional. Ese
Walter freed her conscience and probably escaped eternal damnation but the
entire Christendom took the brunt of the exposure.
Anita
has chosen to free herself from a life of deceit and lies. The truth had set
her free. However, I still counsel her that if the misbehaving preacher husband
demonstrates a verifiable change of heart, she should consider him back and so
that somebody can shout some more Hallelujah. Fifteen years of adulterous
endurance in the midst of charismatic rhapsody is not easy and Anita Oyakhilome
sure needs all the defence and understanding she can get- Let somebody shout a
better Hallelujah!”
Written by Obinna Akukwe
There is no smoke without fire
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