Broken hearted Sales
assistant Deana, from Tiverton, Devon shared her story; she met Ben, 25, on a dating site in 2010. She was
instantly attracted to his looks and was hooked after he struck up a flirty
conversation with her.
“My whole world came crashing down when I found out my marriage was a fake. I loved Ben with all my heart. We’d made loads of plans for the future and he seemed desperate to start a family.
“My whole world came crashing down when I found out my marriage was a fake. I loved Ben with all my heart. We’d made loads of plans for the future and he seemed desperate to start a family.
”I wasn’t serious about
finding love I’d only signed up for a bit of a laugh. As soon as I saw Ben’s picture,
though, I was smitten. He had gorgeous brown eyes and a great body — just my
type. We started chatting and he explained he’d come to the UK from Nigeria to
study for a business degree. I couldn’t imagine being so far away from my
family and friends and I told him he was really brave.”
Ben was persistent online
and was keen to meet up as soon as possible. Deana was nervous at first but,
three months after they started talking, she agreed to travel to London to meet
him for a day of sightseeing. She continued:
“It was the perfect first
date. Ben took me to see Big Ben and we went to the National Maritime Museum in
Greenwich. As soon as we shared our first kiss I could feel myself falling for
him.
He asked me to stay for a
few days and I said yes. It felt like I’d known him for ages.”
Days turned into weeks and,
after a fleeting visit home to pick up some belongings, Deana agreed to move in
with Ben in Catford, South East London.
“I was surprised when he
asked me to move in with him so soon but I was also really excited. But my mum
was really concerned that I was giving up everything for someone I’d only just
met.
Some of my friends said the
same. No one was completely sure of him. I just shrugged off their concerns
because I was convinced he was the right man for me.”
In August 2011, six months
after they first met in person, Ben popped the question.
“Ben asked me to marry him
while we were having breakfast at home. It wasn’t very romantic. He didn’t even
get down on one knee, but he did buy me an imitation diamond ring. I was
shocked he wanted to marry me so soon but I was completely in love.”
Though she’d dreamt of a
big, romantic wedding, Ben was determined to wed as soon as possible. So Deana
agreed to a register office wedding in January 2012, with a low-key reception
at a local Chinese restaurant.
“My family were concerned
but they all turned out and supported me. When I walked down the aisle Ben told
me I looked stunning. And I meant every word of my vows.
”After the ceremony, Deana
urged Ben to call his family to tell them the good news.
“He was reluctant to get
his phone out. He eventually agreed to call his mum but when I looked over his
shoulder at the screen, a message flashed up from a girl. She’d texted Ben to
tell him she loved and missed him.
My legs turned to jelly as
I remembered she was his ex-girlfriend in Nigeria. I was in pieces but Ben
begged me for another chance. He said he’d only text her because of last-minute
nerves. I didn’t want to storm out of my wedding so, after lots of tears, I let
it go.”
“I wanted to wait a few
years before getting pregnant as I was still worried about the message. But Ben
was determined to be a dad. I thought it was his way of showing he was serious.
We tried for a baby but we struggled to conceive.”
But 13 months into their marriage, Deana
borrowed Ben’s laptop and her worst fears were confirmed.
“My heart stopped when I
saw he’d been sending messages to a girl on a social network site and she had
sent him explicit pictures. Ben told her he loved her and wanted a baby with
her.
Minutes later I received a
message from the girl — she felt so guilty, she’d messaged me to come clean.”
Devastated Deana confronted Ben.
“When he realised there was
no way back, he told me he’d only married me for a visa. It explained why he’d
been so keen to get me pregnant — the authorities would find it harder to
deport him.”Disgusted Deana packed her bags, returned to Devon the next day and
filed for divorce. After two years, Ben finally agreed to it.
Deana says:
“I felt relieved. Looking
back, I realise how naive I was. Ben was due to finish his degree when he
proposed, which meant his student visa would expire. He had to get me up the
aisle as soon as possible.”
Deana, who has not spoken to Ben since their
divorce and no longer knows where he lives, says:
“It took me a long time to
trust another man but I have recently met someone and am trying to move on.”
Ben says:
“My mate used to send me
dirty pictures of girls he was seeing. I knew my wife would get jealous if she
saw them on my phone so I got rid of them or sent them to my email. She must
have checked my email that day and then found the pictures.”
Sun
He could not even hold on for a day. Too bad
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