Nollywood
actress Stella Damascus is not new to controversy and social media bashing, the
talented actress have developed a thick skin and has decided to share her tips.
“People have
asked me over the years how I have handled the criticisms, trolls, negative
comments, media bashing and crazy insults. I have put together 20 of the most
effective methods that have helped me. I hope you find them useful.
1.
Acknowledge the fact that haters thrive on Hate. It is a negative
attribute/trait which kills internally and fast.
2. If you
claim to be a positive person, don’t waste your time dwelling on the negative.
3. You need
to understand the fact that these people are HURTING within themselves. They
need to escape from that hurt or take it out on someone.
4. Don’t let
them drag you into their HATE HOLE. If you hate them back then you have become
exactly like them. Your loss.
5. You cannot
control what people do or say, but you can control how you react to it.
6. INTERNET
TROLLING is a very addictive habit. Instead of making them important, see them
as addicts who desperately need rehabilitation. Addiction is a silent killer.
7. Don’t
waste your time getting angry at people who don’t even know you. It is not
logical to allow strangers feed off your anger. They are not worth your
emotions.
8. Most
times, people who make the loudest noise need attention. They can never be
relevant without it. Don’t be the one to make them popular by responding.
9. Get used
to the fact that FREE social media has given even the most ignorant and jobless
person a platform to speak his ignorance and lash out.
10. Rage is
such a powerful life consuming emotion. It takes a lot of pain and anger to
spit out VENOM, especially on people they don’t know. Your HATERS feel that
they are hurting you when they say ugly things to you but they don’t realize
how deep their pain has eaten into them. Pray for them because they are in pain
and their hearts are deeply troubled. Remember that they may not realize this
until it’s too late.
11. Your
HATERS are mostly people who follow you and monitor all you do, so they can
have opportunities to attack you. Guess what? You are more important to them
than they are to you. You are being followed, but they are the ones doing the
following. Who should have the upper hand?
12. The more
they talk, the more you should RISE. Their negative comments should become your
driving force to succeed and do more. The more you rise the more difficult it
becomes for them to keep up. If they STOP harassing you, the RAGE MIGHT destroy
them so they need you to SURVIVE.
13. Nothing
can change their minds about you regardless of the amount of work you do to try
and impress them. Focus on more important things, not how to change their mind.
They don’t know you so what do they want to hate? They think they hate you
because of their PAIN but their thoughts often lead them to more pain and destruction.
Do you really want to get involved in all of that?
14. If they
had more important things to do, they will not have the time to look for you,
follow you, read your posts or look at your pictures, watch your videos then
plan and construct their HATE comments. Trust me, this takes a lot of time and
energy. If YOU had more important things to do, you will not have the time to
look for the haters and you certainly will not have time to respond to all of
them. Make them feel like you don’t even know they exist, neither do you see or
acknowledge their comments. After a while, they get tired of trying to get at
you.
15. If you
were not relevant or making an impact, you will not have HATERS. What do you
really want? Be less than average and not have any haters or be very
successful, important and attract HATERS.
16. Your
HATERS want what you have, they want the life that you have but can’t have it.
Their reaction to this realization is to HATE YOU. By letting their comments
torment you, it means you are accepting the fact that their unimportant life is
your fault.
17. It is
better to be talked about than to be the one who does the talking.
18. People
hate what they don’t understand. When they can’t decipher the reason behind
your success or happiness they will HATE YOU. Be happy that you have something
they want. Always remember to thank God because it’s not the other way round.
19. Try not
to respond to comments when you’re angry. Whatever you say at that point will
be out of anger and this will make you seem worse than the HATER. They always
try to provoke you to respond so that you condescend to their level. Resist the
temptation to fire back at them with your own words.
20. Whatever
you feed more will grow more. Don’t feed the haters by paying attention to
them. Let them starve because you will not feed them with your time and
attention. Guess what happens to a starved troll… When you get uncomfortable,
simply DELETE COMMENT, BLOCK THE USER OR REPORT THE ACCOUNT.”
NICE THANK YOU
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