Popular Nigerian gay
activist Bisi Alimi shared his opinion on social media just as his wedding day
seems to get closer.
According to Bisi Alimi,
“Day
13 of 30 days to my wedding of 30 things to be grateful for. The first time I
put on a dress was at university of Lagos. I was drafted to act a role at the
last minute as the character did not turn up. I am sure @denrele_edun will
remember this event. We were acting for Atiku's wife while she was visiting. Many
times after that, I have dressed up. I dressed up hosting many gay parties in
#Lagos.
In
1999, as a very young 24 years old, I won the glamorous Miss Gay Lagos. It was
an honour. As a man (yes, just in case some of you are confused) wearing a
dress and heels and stockings is liberating for me. I am not a woman and I do
not want to be a woman. When I wear dresses, I wear them as a man and this is
why it is very liberating for me. It connects with my vulnerability.
As
an African man, there is an expectation of what it means to be a man. Wearing a
dress is also a statement of fuck you to patriarchy. I don't do conformity.
I
live in my head and in my world. I would go naked and take a picture of it if I
feel so good about it. Then came last year and I met @msposhp and she changed
my world. She made me understand that beauty has no gender and a dress is a
dress is a dress. The joy I feel when I take on the character of Ms Posh is
overwhelming. She takes me to another level. Also when @obehinoir makes her up,
she transforms into this beautiful woman I have been dying to meet and know. Ms
Posh is an act, she is only real in my head and in your imagination.
That
imagination if you let it loose will change the way you see women and treat
women. As a man in a dress, I have experience sexual harassment and verbal
abuse and to me it is interesting how just a dress changed the way people treat
me. Unfortunately, Ms Posh is not invited to me wedding, but I am sure, she
will be standing next to me in my head when I say 'I Do' to my man.
#samesexmarriage #samesexwedding #30daysofthankfulness #equalmarriage
#weddingday #dragqueen
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