Yul Edochie recently made public his decision to take a second wife who also happened to be one of his colleagues in the movie industry.
Due to the
recent scandals in the entertainment circles of Nigeria, it may be safe to say
that many of the movies produced in Nigeria are perhaps the real lives of the
movie producers.
This
assumption now appears a bit factual considering the current happenings in the
family of leading Nollywood actor, director and writer, Yul Edochie.
His
decision which has so far generated backlashes on social media is one pointer
to how moviemakers turn their real lives into movie scripts or turn their
scripts into real-life experiences.
There is a
wise saying that movies can affect society in both positive and negative ways
and that man cannot act in isolation.
Films also
expand one’s basic knowledge of the world around them and can create violence,
bad habits or good habits and can send a bad or good message to the public.
Now, the
question is, what message has Yul Edochie sent out to the public? This may be
rhetorical but insightful.
Edochie
has played various movie roles in which he is entangled between two or more
women. In most cases, he marries a beautiful wife and gets involved with
another outside his home.
Edochie
and his new wife, Judy may have taken their movie roles more seriously than
anyone could have imagined, having moved their on-set romance to real life.
We have
seen movies where Edochie and Judy acted as a couple in a love triangle.
For instance,
in the movies ‘My marriage fears, The native girl, Edochie played the character
of a city man who married a woman brought to him from the village by his
mother, interestingly, the village wife’s character was played by Judy.
There is
an unwritten rule that actresses and actors cannot be judged by the roles they
play in movies, especially when their characters are flat, static or pure evil.
For
instance, seeing movie veteran, Kanayo O. Kanayo at Obi Cubana’s mother’s
burial raining Naira notes and throwing wads of dollars in the air will
immediately drag one’s attention to his numerous ritualist adventures in front
of the cameras in a movie.
Back to
Yul and his marriage scandal, there are now questions whether his decision was
with the consent of his wife, May. Did May approve the decision of Edochie to
take a second wife? Did his family support his decision? And most importantly,
whether Yul was influenced by his acting roles or was this a mere coincidence?
Concerning
questions about his first wife consenting to his taking a second wife, Yul’s
brother, Uche Edochie had taken to Instagram to reveal that May did not agree
to a polygamous home and that the best the family can do is to console her at
the moment.
May had
confirmed Uche’s revelation with a cryptic message she dropped on social media
pronouncing God’s judgement on Edochie and his second wife.
Yul’s
brother also disclosed that his family was against the decision of taking a
second wife but the actor went ahead with his decision.
Despite
the opinions of Nigerians, Edochie hailed himself for taking responsibility for
his actions and stepping up, unlike other men who are hypocrites.
There are
indications from Judy’s page that the affair between the two may have started
when they worked together on movies he directed and acted in as far back as
October 2021. On her page, she has videos celebrating Pete Edochie and also
Yul.
Since
logic is a way to come to conclusions and morality a way to evaluate actions as
good or evil, let us evaluate the views of some Nigerians on this trending
issue:
Veteran
comedian, Ali Baba speaking on TVC on Thursday on the matter said in Africa
polygamy is acceptable, therefore Edochie’s action is difficult to judge.
He said
although it is difficult to accept a second wife, it is our reality and people
will have to learn to deal with it.
He said,
“The African setting is polygamous but we embraced the western setting.
Polygamy is not wrong in an African setting. Would you have preferred Edochie
to have the lady as a baby mama than a second wife? We don’t know his
relationship with his wife, her response to his post speaks a lot of volumes
about their relationship.
“Some
women back in the day would allow their husbands to get a second wife to fulfil
his needs if she cannot satisfy him. Things like this happen but it is the
family and orientation. If it is a Muslim family it wouldn’t be a problem.
“No matter
what, even in a Muslim home the second wife will not accept a third wife. It is
difficult to accept a second wife but this is the reality and we have to deal
with it.”
Mr
Chukwudi, a marriage counsellor from Imo State posited that Edochie and Judy
have acted in various movies including Igbo movies as a couple and it is sad to
see this coming to reality.
Edochie
had always praised his wife for how loving she had been and supportive, so this
is a betrayal to her and a fault on his part, Chukwudi.
According
to him, “Edochie did wrong to his wife because from the second wife’s social
media page you can see that they both have been working together and that means
having an affair from 2021.
“Legally,
it is wrong to marry another woman without the consent of the first wife, biblically
as a Christian, it is not acceptable but traditionally in some places in Igbo
land you must pay the bride price before you can have access to your child.
This may have been one of the reasons Yul Edochie went ahead to marry her.
“But
paying bride price of a second wife traditionally must be done with the first
wife’s consent and publicly not how Edochie did his.”
With
trending videos of scenes from movies Edochie acted with Judy Austin, Nigerians
have come to the conclusion that the time spent on scenes may have influenced
the actor’s choice of getting a second wife.
Mother of
four, Mrs Ekanem who posited that Edochie’s action may have hindered other
married women in future from achieving their dreams of being actresses.
“This Edochie’s story shows that sometimes all that happens in movies happens in real life. He has made things difficult for married women who want to be actresses as their husbands will find it difficult to trust them in love scenes.
“No matter
what his wife did, it is wrong for him to marry a second wife unless he wants
to convert to Islam. It is really wrong because this seems like a case of him
cheating and the lady falling pregnant which forced him to get married.
“This
should serve as a lesson to young men out there who feel cheating is a normal
thing, they should know that their homes will never be peaceful once they start
cheating and this will affect the children in the long run.”
No comments:
Post a Comment