Nigerian Tribune ,the now single mother of one opened up on how Polygamy changed her views on infidelity.
What did growing up in a
polygamous setting teach you about marriage?
Growing up in a polygamous
setting made me more tolerant of the infidelity of men.
Did your views on marriage change after that?
Well, I still got married,
but I did not expect my husband to be faithful. I didn’t demand or expect it.
If he was unfaithful, it would not cause any fight between us.
So what could cause misunderstanding between
yourself and your man?
I hate lazy men a lot. But
the African society has put women at the receiving end one too many times. For
instance, if a woman doesn’t give birth, all eyes will be on her, while no one
will even point a finger at the man, and it might be the man who is sterile,
while the woman is very fertile. I think we women need to fight for our rights
more.
We have more rights, yes,
but equal rights? I don’t think so.
Why did you say so?
When I tried to buy a gun,
they said they don’t sell guns to women.
Why did you try to buy a gun?
Armed robbers had attacked
us at home and I needed a gun to protect myself.
But can you shoot somebody?
Ah, if my life or my
child’s life is in danger, yes I will fire the culprit without thinking twice.
Even when I did gun practice a while ago, it was very interesting, because I
was able to see how people become killers, as one gets a lot of power holding a
gun. But unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to own one. Meanwhile, men can own
guns. Funny enough, I believe we women are the stronger sex. A man cannot take
a broken heart the way a woman would. A woman will take a broken heart and move
on. An average man will not recover from a broken heart for years.
Obinrin bi Okurin
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