A Nigerian doctor, Obinna
Oke has wielded into the trending issue of allegation against COZA Pastor,
Biodun Fatoyinbo accused of sexually assaulting Busola Dakolo, wife of
musician, Timi Dakolo.
In a research he carried
out, Oke revealed that about 60 percent of women were deflowered by their
pastors and priests.
About this errant Rod of
COZA
I once led a research team
on the Knowledge, Attitude and Practice of women (15 years and above) towards
PAP smear screening for cervical cancer. Among the questions included whether
they had had sex before and the age. Among the over 80 people I sampled myself,
I personally took time to make the interaction a bit fun. I enquired how they
lost their virginity and over 60% of the respondents said they were deflowered
by pastors and priests. 20% said it was by their uncles/relations. Another 15%
were by teachers/peers, 3% by spouses while 2% insisted they were virgins. This
came to me as a shock until I recalled that King David in the Bible, a man
after God's own heart irrespective of his many wives and concubines killed
Uriah to sleep with his wife Bathsheba. Inordinate lust has a strong history
with the clergy, the said men of God. The society, families and all women must
be aware of this truth and take adequate precaution.
There's a COZA spirit in
every pastor. Don't ever stay back after service. Run home with your children.
If your pastor must visit, keep your children out of sight until he goes.
Let him keep his prayer or
say it from his home. Afterall, prayer works by ultra-radiowave.
Be warned.
I heard a colleague recount
such an incident very recently. A girl who obviously admired him went about
telling people that he raped her. His friends who knew him didn't even give him
a chance to tell his side of the story until one day when all of them met by
chance. It shocked all of them as the girl in question was seen introducing
herself to the said guy whom she had accused of raping her. A few moments after
exchanging pleasantries, it struck the boy as the name rang a bell. All her
friends were disappointed her. And the guy was incidentally vindicated. At the
end, the girl apologized. Said she was sorry, that he never really knew her. No
one knew why she did it. Perhaps to raise her ego especially as the guy was a
little popular, a little brilliant, a little handsome and a little rich but
usually kept a straight face when it came to matters concerning women.
That's but one case on the
contrary.
Allegations of rape are so
delicate and sensitive both for the abused and for the accused, but we must
always remember that nothing on earth is absolutely true until proven so. If
people can feign their own death for whatever reason then people can do same
with rape.
Every man stands a chance
of being accused of rape, either by people he actually raped or by past girl
friends envious of his success or by deliberately influenced acquaintances or
strangers with whom such never really occurred but who want to extort or damage
his reputation for reasons so vast. It takes nothing to do so.
The above two incidences
are two sides of the coin.
We must also desist from
accusing people asking questions, hesitating to pass verdict, seeking the truth
about rape cases, of supporting rape. Just as rape damages the victim so does
false accusation of rape damage the accused.
Let's be careful especially
when this is happening to a successful and famous man. Every man deserves a
fair trial. Every man must also be careful. Me, I have chosen to remain a
virgin except some girl decides to rape me anyway
Back to the this errant rod
of COZA:
Many women are now turning
up to speak of their encounters with pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo and his
unrepentant rod. The stories especially that of Mrs Bukola Dakolo may appear
hollow but are certainly overwhelming and laden with facts although poorly
linked. He is possibly guilty. His sins of 17 years ago may have found him out.
But we must repress this surge of emotion that comes with rape and be able to
reason with our heads, so we don't kill a man before we judge him. I can't say
he is guilty until the law finds him so. All I can do is condemn rape in
strongest of terms and warn sheepish followers of pastors of today. There's
more evil in these devil chasers than in the devil they chase.
Protect your children and
yourselves, for the rod of COZA goes around seeking whom to deflower. It can
take any name but often times takes the name Pastor, Priest, Imam, Uncle,
Teacher, Father or Friend but rarely strangers.
Say no to rape.
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